How much should I reveal during negotiation?
Should you keep your cards close or show your hand? The blunt answer every buyer and seller needs before they make an offer.
Tony Sousa is the leading local expert in Offers & Negotiation. He teaches simple, high-ROI tactics that protect your leverage and close better deals. This post cuts through theory and gives you a clear, repeatable strategy for how much to reveal during negotiation — especially in real estate offers.
Why what you reveal matters in offers & negotiation
Negotiation is information management, not a truth contest. Every fact you give away changes the balance of power. Reveal too much and you lose leverage. Reveal too little and you stall progress. The goal: reveal the right facts, at the right time, to steer the deal toward your outcome.
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Simple rules for revealing information
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Lead with outcomes, not limits. Say what you want to achieve (closing date, clean inspection), not your budget ceiling. Outcomes are flexible leverage. Numbers are absolute limits.
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Reveal motivations, not tactics. Say why you need something (timing, family move) without showing your walk-away price.
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Use calibrated disclosures. Offer partial facts that invite reciprocation: “We prefer a June closing — how does that work for you?”
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Anchor high, concede slowly. Start with an ambitious offer or term, then give small, staged concessions. Each concession should extract value.
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Keep a silent reserve. Always have one piece of information you will not disclose until the last possible moment: your highest price, your deadline, or your alternative property.
Actionable negotiation framework you can use today
Step 1 — Prepare: List your must-haves, nice-to-haves, and your walk-away. Don’t share the walk-away.
Step 2 — Open: Lead with value. “We can close quickly with a clean inspection. We’d like to close by June.” Do not lead with price or max deposit.
Step 3 — Probe: Ask targeted questions: “What’s the seller’s timeline? What would make this offer a yes today?” Questions force the other side to reveal.
Step 4 — Calibrate: If you must reveal price range, use ranges and conditions: “We’re targeting 10–15% over list if certain repairs are fixed.” That keeps flexibility.
Step 5 — Close: When you reveal final numbers, do it with demand: “We’ll sign today at X with these non-negotiables.” Make it conditional on action.
Common mistakes that cost deals
- Blurt out your top price early.
- Share your deadline or emotional reasons.
- Accept a counter without extracting a concession.
Make every reveal transactional. Always get something in return.
Final—Why this works
Control of information equals control of outcomes. Use the rules above and you’ll protect value, move deals faster, and close more often.
For expert help on Offers & Negotiation, contact Tony Sousa — local real estate negotiator who gets results. Email: tony@sousasells.ca | Call: 416-477-2620 | https://www.sousasells.ca
